Trust

When I tell my clients to just trust, I say so knowing how hard it is myself. Those of you who got the opportunity to watch the “Raise the Vibe with Liz” podcast I had the absolute pleasure to be a part of, I talked about trust a lot in that episode. It is the theme for this year, trust. Trust that you are on the right path, trust that you are going to be okay, trust to take big chances and risks, trust you are protected and safe, trust. The very first Wyrd Wanderings for this year too, echoed that same message of trust. 

So why am I making a post about this now? Because once again, the universe is asking me to trust and I felt the call to reiterate how difficult that can be. So often it starts with the most simplistic things like paying bills, putting food in the pantry, transportation, health, etc., but it hits those survivalistic instincts that push us into survival mode. And then we remind ourselves to trust, everything will be okay. I have always figured things out before, and I will continue to do so in the future. You just have to trust. And then come in all of the confirmations, the 1111, 1212, 444, number confirmations, powerful birds and animals showing up in unusual places to remind you to trust, songs playing in the background, even signs coming through social media as you are scrolling through cat pictures… And you know to trust. This is the moment, I know to just let the worry go and just trust. But then the seeds of doubt come back in again and again, and that worry of “but what if” keeps coming. 

Trust, like most things, is something that we practice. Self-Love, self-care, crafting, creating, cleaning, navigating through life, it gets easier the more we practice. Which is not the answer we want to hear, but if it was as easy as turning on a light switch, then we would all just do it and we wouldn’t be having this conversation. Those that do try and claim it is that easy are riding a dangerous fine line between authentic trust and bypassing. We can get really good at putting things out of our mind in survival mode when we have to, but coming back to authentic living and thriving is authentically trusting that everything will be okay in the big picture that is our lives. And as vague as that explanation may seem, most are aware of that difference. When we try to convince ourselves everything is okay and deeply knowing it instead. 

Something I ask myself again and again is “how many times does the universe have to prove itself for you to trust?” But again, when those real world, mundane fears start to creep up and bills are coming closer and closer to those due dates, some find themselves sabotaging the universe as well. I hear “I did nothing and nothing has changed” all the time in between the words of their complaints when things aren’t working out as planned for people. And that is not to say you didn’t try hard enough and that’s why it’s not working, but I see it all the time where people will not even make themselves available for change and get upset that nothing has changed. 

I bring all of this up not to shame anyone, but to stress the delicate balance trust can be at times. I come back to that question, “how many times does the universe have to prove itself to me for me to trust”? I look back to all of my experiences in which I have worried about the most mundane things only to find myself to laugh at my worry later. But there are plenty of times in my life where things haven’t always worked out so nicely. But worrying about the worst case scenario never really helped me for those situations either. It is a nice reminder that even in the worst case scenario we can trust ourselves to be able to handle difficult situations, but we have to allow ourselves to trust ourselves to handle those situations as they come then allowing the worry of “what if” keep us from being able to move forward. Again, it is a skill that gets easier and easier the more we practice authentic trust. Sometimes it starts by simply giving ourselves permission to trust. Not to bypass and put out of our minds, but today, I put myself in a place of vulnerability and give myself permission to trust that no matter the outcome, I will make it through this. And that simple practice of honoring how vulnerable authentic trust can make us feel, can help bring out more and more authentic trust in our day to day lives. 

So today I ask you.. Are you willing to give yourself permission to trust? Are you willing to suck at something new in order to grow? Are you willing to put yourself out there just to see how it goes? Or will you allow fear to keep you from living the life you imagine? Do you want to keep bypassing uncomfortable truths because you’re afraid of change? Because nothing will change until you are willing to welcome change. 

Remember, trust is a skill, not a light switch we just turn on. But changing the script is a good step in the right direction. 

Blessings, 

Stephanie